Tlingtlat pui nena thian nih zui hi a theih em?

Mi tam tak tan chuan tlingtlat pui (ex) nena inṭhen hi thil harsa tak a ni a, hun engemaw chen hlim leh lungngai pawh inṭawm tawh hnuah phei chuan thian nih zui leh hi thil chakawm tak a ni fo. Mahse, thian nih zui hi thil awlsam a ni lo va, natna thar leh rilru hahna thlen thei thil a ni bawk. ‘Millenial Love’ ziaktu Olivia Petter chuan thian nih zui theih dan leh theih loh dan chungchangah thurawn pawimawh tak tak a pe a ni.

Petter-i sawi dan chuan, inlaichinna kha a thutak leh thutak loh kha thil pawimawh tak a ni. Inlaichinna kha a lo thutak viau a nih chuan thian nih zui hi a harsa zual bik a, mahse thawmhnaw inbel loh tawpa inkawm thin (casual relationship) te tan chuan thian nih zui hi a awlsam deuh zawk thei a ni. Dating coach Kate Mansfield-a erawh chuan inlaichinna chhunzawm tawh loh hnuah pawh rilru lamah inṭhenna kha kan pawm thiam tawh leh tawh loh hi a pawimawh hle tih a sawi ve thung.

Thian nih zui kan duh chhan hi kan inhrat fiah a ngai hle a ni. Kan rilru chhungrilah tlingtlat pui kha la let leh kan duh vang em ni, nge an nun hrim hrim kha kan la thlahlel zawk? Rilru inpe thlap lo chunga thian nih zui kan tum hian kan rilru a tina zual duh hle a, chuvangin mahni inhrat fiah hmasak hi thil pawimawh hmasa ber a ni. Inlaichinna inṭhen hnuah hun engemaw chen ‘no contact’ emaw, inbe miah lova awm phawt hi a hmawr bawkna tha tak a ni fo bawk.

Thian kan nih zui hnuah bialpa emaw bialnu emaw thar kan neih leh hian harsatna a thleng fo thin. Kan kawppui tharte hian kan tlingtlat pui nena kan inṭhianṭhatna hi an hrethiam kher lo thei a, chuvangin kan thian neih leh dan phung hi siamrem a ngai fo thin. ‘Inthunun’ (attachment) leh ‘thian nihna’ (friendship) hi kan thliar hran thiam a ngai a, kan kawppui tharte rilru kan tihnat loh nan fimkhur a ngai hle bawk a ni.

A tawp berah chuan, tlingtlat pui nena thian nih zui theih loh hun pawh a awm thin. Inlaichinna kha kut inthlakna emaw, rilru lama inhliapna nasa tak a nih chuan thian nih zui tum loh hi a finthlak zawk fo. Mi tam tak tan chuan nun hlui chu nun hluia hnutchhiah a, hmalam pan hi thutlukna tha ber a ni thin. Inṭhen hnuah thian nih kher a ngai lo va, mahni rilru hriselna vawn zawk hi a hmasa ber tur a ni.